| Location | Leeds |
| Age | 70 years |
| Cause of Death | Accident |
| Date of Birth | 04/05/1938 |
| Date of Death | 05/09/2008 |
| Visitors | 2,123 since 13/09/2008 |
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Brian was sadly taken from us whilst he was on his motorbike at the roundabout on Henconner
Lane/Butt Lane in West Yorkshire, Leeds.
Hit by an Asda van driver Brian clung on for a week in hospital but sadly passed away on Friday 5th
September 2008.
Brian Jay, 70 years old and one of the funniest and most down to earth fella's I have ever had the
privilege to know. I got to know him through work although I had known the family for many years.
Brian and I always had a laugh together, Brian always had a good word for me and my family and his
smile at work always lit up the place.
I'm not known for saying the nicest of things about many people and when I made any comments at
work, I was always guaranteed a sneaky grin from Bri, a smile of agreement or one of those, "I'm not
too old to give you a clip round the ear" looks if I made a joke on any particular subject.
Brian amazed me that at 60 when I got to know him he was still whizzing around on a motorbike and as
fit if not fitter than most 30 year olds I know.
Bri taught me a few tricks and it's not a cliche when I say his smile and cheeky grin will stay
engrained on my memory forever.
Brian's physical presence will be sadly missed although his spiritual presence will remain, an
everlasting impression that will never be forgotten.
I'll keep watching for the steel horse riding by with you grinning and laughing away in your
leathers.
Sleep Well Brian!
I miss you
Dad, I really miss you. I love you. I know that we had a good relationship, and I know that you knew how I loved you. I just wish that I told you more often
I see your eyes staring back at me everytime I look in the mirror. Each and every day ,I miss you. I hear your words of wisdom telling me chin up lass keep smiling and always think positive, I miss you.
I feel your heart touching mine as I express my love to my loving family, I miss you
I feel your strength enveloping me, but I am loosing the clarity of the picture I have of you in my mind, I miss you
I still feel the pain of loosing you, it's so deep that I sometimes i struggle to function, I miss you
I still feel so much hatered to the creature that caused your death, this fuels great anger within me, then I hear you say those imortal words 'Always Forgive, but Never Forget'. Although I'm sorry to say I find it impossible to forgive, but maybe one day, those words bring calmness and comfort to me because I know you have already forgiven and found peace, I miss you,
I miss your arms, I miss your wise words. I miss your laughter, I miss your love but mostly I miss your strength and your ability to always make things better, I miss you xxxx
Dad, I’ve not visited for sometime, sorry. My fears are becoming heightened at the moment as we have been given a trial date of 7th Dec which fills me with dread and fear, because it is going to be difficult sitting in court while strangers talk about you and what you suffered in the last week of your precious life. I will also have to listen to the cretin who caused your death claim he was not responsible. My worst fear is that he could be found not guilty. I could not bare that.
Christmas is just around the corner, that also fills me with dread because you are not hear. I miss you so much xxxx
Love Beverly x
Dad it has been a very difficult weekend, we all met at your tree on Oliver’s Mount to help us feel close to you, we laid some flowers and placed a wind chime in your tree. We camped at Cayton Bay sent most of Saturday night sharing our memories and thoughts of you it was an emotional day, obviously, but we all supported each other.
It was good to be with family and comforting that you have brought us all together, I just wish that when you were alive you had known how much you meant to so many, but I suppose that is the way of things, we never realise what we have until it’s gone. When you passed away I wished I had told you how much you meant to me, but the I saw birthday, Christmas, fathers day cards I had sent you over many years and realised I told you often, I was so glad I did. I miss you so much and I am so thankful for this website as I am able to talk to you in safety and no one thinks I’m going mad.
Miss you, your loving daughter Beverly xx
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, Love leaves a memory no one can steal
My darling Dad, it hurts so much that it’s a year since we last spoke, a year since I last looked into your eyes, a year since I last saw your smile, a year since I last held your chunky strong hands. I have shed countless tears over the year and missed you more tan words can express.
I miss you when something really good happens, because you're the one I used to share it with. I miss you when something is troubling me, because you're the one who understands me so well. I miss you when I laugh and when I cry, because I know that you're the one who makes my laughter grow and my tears disappear. I miss you all the time, but I miss you the most when I lie awake at night and think of all the times you were there for me I miss you because you were the light in my darkness.
Miss you my darling dad xx
I love you Dad x
I always knew that one day I would have to say goodbye to you, as death is an inevitable part of life. I knew that I would find it difficult and miss you. So very much But the circumstances of your death, the suddenness and the fact that it is was at the hands of another, I find so difficult. I struggle each day to keep moving forward. I wish some days to just stay in bed lock out the world in the hope that the pain will ease, but that is a pipe dream.
I try to let those close to me believe that I am coping ok, but I’m not…..Dad, you were always my confidant … the person that helped me rationalise and work things out. I find it difficult to work this out on my own. I have lost my confidence my strength, my hope. I am in a really dark place and so scared that I’ll not find my way. I write to you because I don’t know what else to do, I feel so alone and lost and writing my feeling to you makes me feel closer to you, but……at the same time it compounds tat you are no longer here.
I want to believe, I want to believe so much that you can hear me, that your spirit, your soul is still around but I find it so hard to believe that. I just feel you are gone…… no more, you are a memory and that is it! I wish, oh god how I wish I could believe you were in heaven happy and looking down on me, if you were you would not be proud of what you see!
I feel so helpless, so lost….. I need to pull myself together and be the daughter you would be proud of! I don’t know how to…. I’ve lost my muse, my inspiration, my love, MY DADX. I’m sorry for being me…me….me! Just feeling sorry for myself! But I have every right to….don’t I?…..I love and miss you with every fibre of my being.
Your ever loving daughter Beverly xxx
Dad, this day, the 1st anniversary of your accident has come around so fast it only seems like weeks ago we were waiting for you to come out of surgery.
Today we went to your tree, planted some spring bulbs and laid a beautiful red rose. It is so painful and we miss you so desperately. Have no words today only tears, I love and miss you so very much, love Beverly xxxx
You live on
Dad, today I read this quote “The unreal is more powerful than the real, because nothing is as perfect as you can imagine it. because its only intangible ideas, concepts, beliefs, fantasies that last. stone crumbles. wood rots. people, well, they die. but things as fragile as a thought, a dream, a legend, they can go on and on.” I was, as I often am missing you and wanting to talk to you. It felt as though it was you speaking to me, Guiding my thoughts to be more positive and I thought We all have to die. The purpose isn't to live forever, the objective is to create something that will. You achieved this during your life through the principles you passed on to me such as the importance of love being unconditional. Having the ability to consider others and valuing the diversity of people and differing lifestyles. Proving serenity is a strength and not a weakness. This is how you will live forever, through the principles you passed on to me and I have passed on to my children, your grand children and they will pass on to their children.
Even though I no longer able to be with in person I feel and see your pressence in me, Dan and Bevan. xxx
Dad, find it hard to accept that the man, or should I say coward, who caused your death has pleaded not guilty. I feel sick in the pit of my guts and the thought that he might get away with it. I do not know how we would cope with that. In particular I worry how Paul will cope, he has so much anger inside and I am afraid that it would send him over the edge. Nigel is coping ok but I think that is just a mask and under the surface he is not doing as well as he appears. We all miss you so much, the pain sometimes is crippling. Love you Beverly
Dad,
where do I begin to even scratch the surface of the impact you've had on my life. You have been the greatest influence in my life. Thank you for being that shining light in my darkest night, and thanks for always trying to make my loads light. Thank you for the confidence you gave me while growing up.
Dad, You have always accepted me as I am. I have always been in awe of your strength, your integrity,your endurance and mostly your faith in me. I hope too that with all I'm going through at this point in my life, I hope that I can somehow, someway come close to having your strength, your faith, your boldness and your wisdom to endure all!
I am extremely blessed to have had you as my beautiful, wonderful, loving Dad!!! YOU HAVE AND ALWAYS WIL BE MY HERO and my strength. I find it hard without you but I am my fathers daughter and will cope because you provided me with the tools to do so.
I Love and miss you everyday, but moreso on the day when I used to ensure I told you how amazing you are. I know I'm not able to do that in person, but for the rest of my life I will tell you on Fathers day how much I love you and how thankful I am that you were my Dad. Thank you for being you
Love you x
Beverly xx
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